Parenting through Your Heart Series (Part VI)
I LOVE Human Design! It has helped me so much,
especially in my relationships with my children.
"Would you like a suggestion?" I asked my
son Ryan, who was struggling with a building project. "Uh-huh," he
responded welcoming my advice. The above question has been a
'relationship savior' in my family. Before I learned that my children
respond better to a Yes/No question (their Human Design Type strategy),
I would just lovingly give them my suggestions or tell them how to do
something. Unfortunately, this approach led my well-intended suggestions
to be met with resistance.
The simple action of asking them if they want to hear my advice has
helped our communications be more harmonious. I have implemented this
strategy in many other areas, like school discussions, bedtime and
dinner time, with much success.
As most mothers, I am very practical and like effective strategies.
One reason I have found Human Design to be such a helpful tool is
because of its positive and empowering strategies. Today, I wish
to share with you some valuable Human Design strategies intended to help
you honor both yourself as a parent, as well as, your child.
The strategies I am sharing with you will help your parent-child
relationship go more smoothly. As you implement these strategies,
you will notice a positive difference in the way you feel and how
your child responds to you.
You will benefit the most from these strategies, if you know your
Human Design Type and your child's Type. If you already know
your Types, great! If not,
get your complimentary charts here!
Your Type will be one of the following:
* Manifestor
* Manifesting Generator
* Generator
* Projector
* Reflector (not covered in this article)
Once you know your Types, find your and your child's Types in the
sections below.
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TYPE: GENERATORS & MANIFESTING
GENERATORS
Your Strategy: Respond to a sign from your environment before you
take action.
Tips for GENERATOR & MANIFESTING GENERATOR PARENTS
1. Respond before you act!
You can find out what actions are best for you by responding with your
Sacral sounds, "Uh-Huh" (for 'Yes') and "Un-Un" (for 'No') before you
take action. These responses reflect your inner guidance, which will
give you clarity to know what to do.
Ask yourself Yes/No questions before you act and allow your gut response
to guide you. For example, ask yourself, "Do I want to do this?" "Does
this feel good?" "Is this good for me at this time?" "Is it better for
me to do this later?" Notice what your Sacral response (or inner
guidance) is telling you.
2. Let others know to ask you "Yes/No" questions.
Others honor you when they give you opportunities to respond, rather
than telling you what to do. Some questions to have others ask you are, "Do you want
to do this?" "Does this feel good to you?" "Is this good for you at this
time?" "Is it better for you to do this later?" and my favorite
question, the 'relationship savior:' "I have a suggestion, do you want
to hear it?"
Additional Tip for MANIFESTING GENERATOR PARENTS
1. Inform!
In addition to responding to your inner guidance before acting, your
strategy involves informing others of what you will be doing. Before
taking action, big or small, think of who will be affected by the action
and let them know of your intentions.
For example, announce to your children, "This is what we are doing this
morning" or if leaving the room where your child is with you, "I am
going to the bathroom. I'll be right back."
Tips for Parenting a GENERATOR & MANIFESTING GENERATOR
CHILD
1. Give your children opportunities to respond.
We usually tend to tell our children what to do, instead of asking them.
We tell them, "Pick up your room." "Do your homework." "Eat your
dinner." This approach creates resistance, not only because nobody likes
being told what to do, but because we are not honoring our child's
strategy. It is better to ask them "Yes/No" questions. For example, "Can
you pick up your room now?" "Is it better for you to pick up your room
after you finish playing the game?" "Do you want to eat breakfast now?"
"Want eggs?"
2. Encourage physical activity every day.
Generators and Manifesting Generators need to run and move their bodies.
If they don't get enough exercise, they won't be able to sleep well nor
focus. This will ultimately affect their physical health and mental
well-being.
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TYPE: PROJECTORS
Your Strategy: Wait to be invited.
Tips for PROJECTOR PARENTS
1. Wait to be invited before sharing your wisdom and ideas.
Projectors are here to guide and manage others. They have an innate
ability to see how things can be done better and more effectively. Many
times the Projectors well-meaning advice is ignored, rejected or not
welcomed. The key for Projectors is to wait for this wisdom to be
invited out of them.
You can use the 'relationship savior' question, "I have an idea that I
think will help, do you want to hear it?" or "Is this a good time to
share an idea that I feel will help?" Then, wait for your invitation to
speak. If you wait for this invitation, you will be heard and
appreciated.
2. Rest Alone!
Give yourself plenty of time by yourself to rest. Projectors do not have
access to sustainable physical energy, plus they easily absorb other's
energy, which can be draining. Projectors get physically tired very
easily. Give yourself plenty of alone time to discharge others' energy
and rest to recharge your own energy supply. Yes, naps are good for you!
Tips for Parenting a PROJECTOR CHILD
1. Invite your child often.
Invite your Projector child to share their ideas and suggestions with
you. Ask them for advice. They will love you for it and you will not
feel resistance to their input.
Invite your child to participate in family activities. Help facilitate
social events where they are invited by others, like playdates. Invite
your child to do things, instead of telling them what to do. The more
formal your invitation, the better. For example, "I am inviting you to
get dressed. Would you like to get dressed?"
2. Give your child time alone.
Your child needs time alone to discharge and rest. Especially, after
being in school all day absorbing the "buzzing" physical energy of their
classmates. Just being in the same classroom with Generators and
Manifesting Generators, which are 70% of the population, is exhausting
for a Projector!
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TYPE: MANIFESTORS
Your Strategy: Inform!
Tips for MANIFESTOR PARENTS
1. Inform!
Let others know what you will be doing. Tell them your plans for the
day, when you will be to putting their things away, and when you will be
leaving the room.
When you leave a room without informing, others will feel it
energetically and get distraught if they do not know where you are.
2. Rest!
You may get tired just being around your Generator & Manifesting
Generator children, or even just sleeping with them! Take every
opportunity you can to be by yourself, rest and recharge.
Tips for Parenting a MANIFESTOR CHILD
1. Teach them to inform.
Informing doesn't come naturally to Manifestors. They tend to do things
without asking. For example, they may go outside to play without telling
you. Or they may invite their friends over without letting you know
first. Help them understand that it is important to let you know what
they plan to do.
2. Ask them if they want your help before interrupting their
process (or play).
Manifestors are energetically designed to initiate action without
needing others. If you come into their "project" without asking first,
they will get upset. Honor their independence and be mindful of not
trying to control them.
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The strategies offered by Human Design
help us accept, respect and honor both ourselves and our loved-ones.
This in turn, helps us create more harmonious and loving relationships.
May these strategies bring you many blessings of Love, Peace
and Joy.
Love & Light,
Dumari
P.S. I'd love to know how applying these strategies work for you!
Email me your comments and
stories.
Last Revised: October 2009 (c) Children Lights
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