Ask Dumari!  Questions & Answers

   Question              

"When I say, 'be careful' to my children, am I instilling fear?"

 Answer  

When we say “be careful,” we are usually focused on what could go wrong.  We are feeling nervous, anxious or worried about what might happen to our child.  This is why we remind them to “be careful.”

Of course you want them to be safe!   But you can become aware of what you are attracting by the way you feel.  Do you feel good or do you feel bad when you say “be careful”?  If you feel good, you are attracting what you want.  If you feel bad, your fear is attracting to you that which you do NOT want.

In order to use the Law of Attraction deliberately in a situation where you would say “be careful,” like when your child is at the playground balancing on some logs, you can try the following steps:

1.  IDENTIFY WHAT YOU WANT and INTEND IT. 

(Sometimes it is easier to gain clarity about what you want by knowing what you do not want.  EXAMPLE:  “I do not want my child to fall.  I do not want my child to get hurt.”)

 “I want safety.  I want my child to stay balanced on the logs.  I intend my child’s safety and well-being.”

2.  CONNECT WITH YOUR HEART and ask, “WHAT WOULD LOVE SAY?”

Express what your heart guides you to say, “You are so balanced.  You have control of your body.  You are aware of your surroundings.  You know exactly what to do.  Trust yourself.”

3.  BELIEVE WHAT YOU WANT IS ALREADY YOURS.

“I SEE my child SAFE.  I KNOW s/he is protected by their Divine Self and angels.  I SEE their body BALANCED and IN CONTROL.  I SEE them HAPPY.  I TRUST and I let go now.”

4.  EXPRESS GRATITUDE, JOY AND LOVE.

“I am deeply GRATEFUL for my child’s safety.  I APPRECIATE their health and well-being.  We are so BLESSED.  I AM happy.  I AM joyful.  I LOVE my child.”

Even though you cannot create for anybody else, including your child, you can influence what they create for themselves.  You are your child’s believing eyes.  What you see for them, they see for themselves, especially when they are young.  You are a major influence in your child’s self-confidence and how they experience the world around them.

You can deliberately co-create with your child!  Choose to put your attention on what you want for them.  So, move from saying “be careful” to “you can do it!”

Love,

Dumari